Now that you tied the knot, it’s time to make it even more official! Changing your name can be stressful if you aren’t aware of all the necessary steps. Also double check you have all of the required documents for each office you’re visiting. We suggest taking one full day to knock out everything at once!
Make sure you have a certified copy of your marriage license to take to each of these places below. Just call your clerk’s office in which your license was filed.
Practice your new signature! You will feel like you are signing your life away after all the papers you are required to sign by doing all of the steps below…. Not to mention the signature on your new driver’s license is stamped on the front for the next decade! So you might as well start practicing that new last name.
Apply for a new Social Security Card. I highly suggest locating your local social security office to take all of the required documents in person. It’s too risky to mail these documents and you risk them getting lost in the mail. Click here to view the required documents, download the name change application and to locate your local social security office.
Get your new driver’s license. Make a trip to your local DMV and make sure to bring a certified copy of your marriage certificate and your old driver’s license. Just so you know, you will be taking a new photo! Make sure to find your state’s DMV website to review required documents and their hours of operation.
Go to your Bank and update your name. You will want to make sure your credit and debit cards match your new driver’s license. Again, make sure to bring your marriage certificate and new license (the paper temporary is fine). You also may want to consider at this time if you and your new husband will be having a joint bank account. Go ahead and order some new checks too with your updated name and address.
Now you have completed all of the urgent and necessary name changing steps! A few other places to consider updating your information and will be much easier:
There are many different roles each person in your wedding party should be aware of to help alleviate some of the stress from you leading up to your big day! It’s not a bad idea to share this with your MOH and let her help inform everyone of their duties. Your wedding party will appreciate this because most of the time they just don’t know what they should be doing to help but want to be involved in some way.
The Best Man
This guy acts as groom’s valet (personal aide and advisor) through all stages of wedding planning. He’s a fashion consultant, bachelor-party master of ceremonies, and commander-in-chief of the groomsmen brigade.
His duties include (but aren’t limited to):
Hosts the bachelor party
Helps the groom select, pick up and return formal wear
Getting the groom to the ceremony on time
Holding the bride’s wedding ring at the altar
Serves as witness to the signing of your marriage license
Serves as your groom’s personal attendant during the ceremony
Proposes the first toast to you and your new spouse at the reception
Calls upon other guests to make toasts
Manages your departure from the reception with the coordinator
The Maid or Matron of Honor
The bride’s right-hand for the duration of the planning process, she’s there to supply a second pair of eyes and provide emotional support as needed. In general, the maid of honor heads up the bridal shower and handles numerous wedding day details, which might include (but are not limited to):
Attends pre-wedding parties and events
Hosts bridal shower and bachelorette party
Serves as witness to the signing of your marriage license
Helps you dress and prepare on your wedding day
Serves as your personal attendant during the ceremony
Carries your groom’s wedding ring
Adjusting the bride’s train at the altar
Holding her bouquet during vows
Collecting gift envelopes at the reception
Organizes reception activities like bouquet toss with the coordinator
Helps the best man organize your departure from the reception
A posse of male family members and friends who will assist the groom in planning and preparing for the big day. Their chief responsibilities:
Arrange and pay for their formal wear
Assist in preparations when called upon
Attend pre-wedding parties and events
Seat guests for the ceremony
Serve as greeters at reception
Dance with dateless ladies at the reception
Act as a resource for confused guests
Prepare vehicle for your departure from the reception
Trustworthy gal pals and female family members who form the bride’s entourage. They are a support team for the maid of honor, helping with:
Pre-wedding tasks when asked (addressing invites, making bridal shower favors, planning the bachelorette party, and more)
Arrange and pay for their gowns and accessories
Host and attend pre-wedding parties and events
Help decorate the ceremony and reception sites if needed
Serve as hostesses at reception
Hit the dance floor and help get the party started
Father of the Bride
Your dad gets to be the gentleman host extraordinaire on this special day! Some of his responsibilities include:
Co-Host an engagement party with his wife
Help select the wedding date
Available for wedding weekend duties like airport runs, heavy lifting, ect.
Traditionally he is the one to escort you down the aisle
Prepares a special toast for the reception
Participates in the Father Daughter dance at the reception
Typically is the last person to leave the reception after greeting guest and seeing them off for the evening
Father of the Groom
Your future father-in-law can be a great resource during this time and help with the following:
Host the rehearsal dinner with his wife
Kicks off the rehearsal dinner with a toast
May also have a toast for the reception
Be on call for additional help needed on the wedding day (airport rides, heavy lifting, ect.)
Mother of the Bride
Your mom can be a great resource and helper during this time, but ultimately it’s up to you how involved she will be. Here are some areas will she may be able to help:
Help bride and groom scout out ceremony and wedding reception sites and ask friends/family for vendor recommendations.
Help bride choose her wedding dress
Compile and submit names and addresses of your family and friends to be included on the master guest list.
Talk to the groom’s family about whom they want to include on the guest list and manage the difficult task of limiting the number of guests, if necessary.
Help research family or ethnic traditions and heirlooms to incorporate into the ceremony or reception.
Determine what you want her to wear on the big day and find a gorgeous mother of the bride dress. Then, consult with the groom’s mom on what you two will be wearing. You’ll both feel more comfortable if your elegance is in sync. Start looking for the perfect dress.
In a Christian wedding, be seated in the first pew directly before the ceremony and leave the chapel first afterward.
Dance with the father of the bride (or other escort) and the groom during the formal first-dance sequence.
Remind the bride often how special she is and that she’ll be the most beautiful bride in history.
Let the bride cry on your shoulder anytime, day or night (you know, be a mom)
Mother of the Groom
The groom’s mom may assume any of the bride’s mom’s responsibilities if you need the additional help, but should consult with you and the mother of the bride. Her other responsibilities may include:
Co-host & plan the Rehearsal Dinner with her husband
Attend Bridal Showers and other pre-wedding events